|Gun, fire, motor vehicle safety practices linked to parents’ depressive symptoms
||AU School of Public Affairs assistant professor Taryn Morrissey conducted a study that links parental depression to increased safety risks for their children. Her article on the findings, ‘Parents’ Depressive Symptoms and Gun, Fire, and Motor Vehicle Safety Practices,’ was published online by the Maternal and Child Health Journal on Jan. 5, 2016. Morrissey used [...]
|Lead exposure linked to ADHD in kids with genetic mutation
||Exposure to small amounts of lead may contribute to ADHD symptoms in children who have a particular gene mutation, according to new research published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science. “This research is valuable to the scientific community as it bridges genetic and environmental factors and helps to illustrate one [...]
|Study reveals new negotiation tip: Gain sympathy and gain the advantage
||Is sympathy considered a sign of weakness or is there a place for sympathy in negotiations? Research by Laura Kray, a professor in the Haas Management of Organizations Group at UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business, suggests that when one party conveys information with emotional reasons behind it, the other party is more likely to [...]
|Is it All in Your Head?
||Perception is powerful. What you focus on shapes what you experience.
|Cellular 'switch' helps brain distinguish safety from danger, new study finds
||Researchers have identified a cellular circuit that helps the mouse brain to remember which environments are safe, and which are harmful. Their study also reveals what can happen when that circuitry is disrupted -- and may offer new insight into the treatment of conditions such as posttraumatic stress, panic and anxiety disorders.
|7 Ways to Get Over Perfectionism
||New Year’s resolutions seem like a good idea at the time, but when it comes to implementing them, you may feel you need to be perfect in order to make any headway. There is a way out of this dilemma. You probably can use a … ...
|Possible strategy against stroke discovered
||Scientists have identified the oxygen sensor PHD1 as a potential target for the treatment of brain infarction (ischemic stroke). Despite (minor) improvements in stroke treatment, stroke remains the fourth leading cause of death and the most common reason of severe disability. The impact of stroke is overwhelming for the patient, family and society -- representing one of the largest unmet medical needs.
|Slow stem cell division may cause small brains
||Researchers have figured out how a developmental disease called microcephaly produces a much smaller brain than normal: Some brain stem cells are simply too slow as they proceed through the neuron production process. The findings provide not only a new mechanistic explanation for microcephaly, but could also enhance understanding of autism or other neurodevelopmental disorders thought to arise from disruptions in the proper balance of neurons in the brain.
|Gut, Autism, and ADHD
||The microbiota in babies impacts mental health in children in surprising ways.
|A Million Ways to Say Hello
||Some of the many rewards of cross-cultural encounters can come from our differences.
|I Wonder What It’s Like To Have Empathy
||A lot of people on the spectrum have a bit of a coldness to us. That’s not to say we’re mean. Not at all. In my experience people on the spectrum … ...
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|The Science to End the Baby Care “Mommy Wars”
||Parents face conflicting advice as they make decisions during baby’s first year. Separate the hype from the evidence on these hot button issues.
|Do You Struggle to Feel Big and Proud?
||“Don’t get too big for your britches!” “Don’t think you’re better than anyone else!” “Don’t get a swelled head!” “Don’t think you are so great!” Beginning as little children, we hear cultural messages that are meant to socialize and civilize us. We learn to keep … ...
|The GPS Coordinates of “Faith”
||In my last post, I shared my New Year’s intention to “have faith.” Setting the intention itself went fairly well, I thought. So perhaps I was feeling a touch over-optimistic … ...
|Molecular mechanism responsible for a neurodegenerative disease discovered
||A mechanism that is responsible for the degeneration of Purkinje cells in the cerebellum in a neurodegenerative disease called Spinocerebellar ataxia type 1 has been discovered by researchers. The results of this study open up new avenues for the future treatment of cerebellum associated degenerative disorders.
|Eat less and be happy: Is it possible?
||Small, uncertain incentives stimulate the same reward center of the brain as food, new brain-imaging research reveals. In a new article, the authors offer food for thought on why we overeat and how we can be just as happy not doing it.
|Zoning out or deep thinking?
||Reading stories about values you hold sacred activates a part of your brain once thought to be used for zoning out. The researchers suggest that these results were gained not just because the brain is presented with a moral quandary, but rather that the quandary is presented in a narrative format.
|Guest Blog: I Am More Than Anxiety
||Guest Blog By: Sarah Fader I started experiencing panic attacks as a teenager. I was 15-years-old scared and alone. When I had my first panic attack, I was in my apartment with … ...
|Just One Thing: See Behind the Mask
||Most of us wear a kind of mask, a persona that hides our deepest thoughts and feelings, and presents a polished, controlled face to the world.
To be sure, a persona is a good thing to have. For example, meetings at work, holidays with the in-laws, or a first date are usually not the best time to spill your guts. Just because you’re selective about what you reveal to the world does not mean you’re insincere; phoniness is only when we lie about what’s really going on inside.
Much of the time, we interact mask-to-mask with other people. There’s a place for that. But remember times when someone saw through your mask to the real you, the person back behind your eyes. If you’re like me, those times were both unnerving and wonderful.
Even though it’s scary, everyone longs to be seen, to be known. To have your hopes and fears acknowledged—the ones behind a polite smile or a frown of frustration. To have your true caring seen, as well as your positive intentions and natural goodness. Most intimately of all, to feel that your innermost being—the one to whom things happen, the one strapped to this roller coaster of a life trying to make sense of it before it ends—has been recognized by someone.
This goes both ways: others long to be seen by you. Besides the ways that seeing the person behind the eyes benefits others, it’s good for you, too. Being seen is often the real stake on the table, the top priority, more important to other people than whether you agree with them about something. When someone gets that sense from you, that he or she exists for you as a person—not just as a pain in the neck or as someone to manage to get through this meeting, dinner, bedtime routine, phone call, or sexual experience—then it’s much easier to take care of the matter at hand, whatever it is.
Sensing the deepest layers in people can nourish you in other ways, too. For example, I had a relative with a big heart but a difficult personality that drove me a little crazy. Finally, I started to imagine that being with her was like looking at a bonfire through a lattice covered with thorny vines. I focused on the love shining through and warming my own heart, and didn’t get caught up in the vines. That helped both of us a lot.
This week with different people, get a sense of the person behind the eyes. It’s not a staring contest; it can actually help to look away so you’re not distracted by surface details. (While I’m using the word “see,” of course you are also hearing the person behind the words, sensing the person embedded in the body sitting across from you.)
Take a moment to relax and set aside your case about the other person, and open to the being down in there somewhere, maybe rattled and defensive and acting in ways that are problematic, but really just yearning for happiness and some way to move forward in life.
You could also sense your own innermost being, and then imagine that core, that sense of being alive, the recipient of experiences, the one for whom life is hard sometimes, inside the other person.
Let that recognition of the person over there show in your face, in your own eyes. Be brave and let them see you seeing them.
Notice how this recognition changes the course of an interaction – perhaps softening it, making it more authentic, leading to a good resolution more gently and quickly.
As an advanced practice, you could even raise the subject with someone, of the degree to which you feel seen (or not) as persons by each other. That kind of conversation can transform a relationship.
Last, enjoy being a person yourself, the channel through which your life streams—with some of the richest streaming being the other persons all around you.