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An Inauthentic Apology Can Be Maddening Why is apologizing as difficult as a root canal for some people? This is how we may respond when we're protecting our image rather than sincerely apologizing.
Where to go when you need support for your anxiety I felt like someone had knocked the wind out of me. My best friend of 17 years was on a texting tirade, and every word that appeared on the screen hurt more than the last. She told me I used my anxiety as an excuse, that I romanticized both it and my introversion, and that [...]
Today I Love The Soft, Steady Rain Today I love the soft, steady rain on the changing leaves that played its music to me in the early morning hours as I lay awake and realized I had … ...
The Transpersonal Nature of Intimacy “In Zen Buddhism, intimacy is a very important word. In the early Chinese literature of Zen … it was used as a synonym for the … breakthrough that’s more commonly called realization or enlightenment. When you are intimate, you are one with. When you are … ...
Technical Difficulties Today, I’m grieving. Specifically, I’m grieving the loss of my laptop and with it several years’ worth of files.  The good news is that I’d made backups of important documents. … ...
ADHD and Driving Distracted When you have a car full of distractions and ADHD, it’s best to limit your focus to stay safe. Kids in the back, food to eat in the front, phone buzzing, … ...
Raised in a Passive-Aggressive Family Show me a family that has no anger in it, and I’ll dig out their anger and show it to them. That’s my job. I’m a therapist. Every family has … ...
Nonviolence The first Yama is perhaps my favorite ahimsa, usually translated as “nonviolence.” This refers not only to physical violence, but also to the violence of words or thoughts.  At first … ...
Research Updates in Psychiatry: Depression and Suicide DEPRESSION Physicians May Overprescribe Antidepressants Based on Brief Depression Questionnaires Brief depression screening questionnaires are popular, especially with primary care providers (PCPs). However, a new study suggests that PCPs who use these questionnaires might be prescribing antidepressants to patients who don’t need them. This was … ...
When Anxious Thoughts Just Won’t Quit Maybe you can’t stop worrying about work. You’re convinced that you are an impostor, and everyone at the office knows it, too. Which means that you’re bound to get fired. Maybe you fear that your partner will abandon you, because you know you’re not enough. … ...
Diets don’t work; its all in the mind: 5... The Diet is Dead As a psychologist and psychotherapist, I have come across so many people who are frustrated and feel guilty about their body and their relationship with food. … ...
Diets don’t work; it’s all in the mind: 5... Diets Don’t Work. The Diet is Dead. As a psychologist and psychotherapist, I have come across so many people who are frustrated and feel guilty about their body and their … ...
Juggling Past, Present & Future I was driving in my car this morning when a well-known Italian singer, Eros Ramazzotti, came on the radio. I was immediately transported to a different time and space just … ...
Lucid Dreaming Can Improve Physical Skills, Scientists Say... Can we significantly improve physical skills by practicing them while we sleep? Yes, scientists say. New research published in the Journal of Sports Sciences confirms that practicing motor skills while lucid dreaming can lead to real life improvements in skill performance that can be equivalent … ...
When a Friend Minimizes Your Experiences When mental illness is a major part of your life, sometimes you find that you need to explain strange behavior or dropping off the face of the map. When it’s … ...
Lack of Empathy – It’s Not Always Obvious Lack-Of-Empathy: It’s always cited as one of the chief characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. But what is it really? What does lack-of-empathy look like when it’s at home? Simplistic I … ...
Today I Love Seasons Changing Today I love the seasons changing, because that means there will be new seasons coming, all the seasons will be coming. We still have all of them to enjoy, as … ...
ADHD Treatment Is Multi-Complex Introduction Treatment for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is multi-complex.  Treatments for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder can include medication and various types of psychotherapy, as well as education or training.  This … ...
Does Depression Turn Self-Medication into Addiction? The term self-medicating simply means using a substance or engaging in a behavior to satisfy a physical or psychological need. Quite often, though, self-medicating means relying heavily on legal or illicit substances, like alcohol or drugs. As a manifestation of addiction, such self-medication is especially … ...
The Martyr Complex: How to Stop Feeling Like a...   In psychology we use the term martyr complex or victim complex to mean someone who choose to feel and act like a victim. Similar to a people-pleaser, a person … ...