|10 Differences Between (Most) Men and Women
||1. Men care way too little about what women say. Women care way too much about what men say--except when those men are in positions of actual power, such as are held by politicians or members of the clergy, who are making decisions and choices that will effect the deepest recesses and corners of our most intimate lives without actually, like, consulting us.
|The seemingly endless panic attack
||Last week I had a rough day. I woke up in the king-sized bed I share with my boyfriend and for the first few moments I had no idea where I was. This happens sometimes. Not frequently, but enough that I am going to bring it up to my doctors....
|Do You Resist When Anyone Asks or Tells You
||It may have been a while since I posted on the Four Tendencies, but have no doubt, I’m still obsessed with this subject. I came up with the Four Tendencies framework as part of my work on Better Than Before, my book on habit change. There, I reveal the secret of habit formation.Really. Ready to...
|When a Client Says Something Hard to Believe
||Clients tell therapists some pretty unusual things. Consider the following scenarios: A middle aged woman in average shape claims that she is a professional soccer player An older woman in poor shape reports that she is routinely offered $30,000 for sexual favors A man swears that he does not feel...
|Value Your Life Contributions
|| We all have days that everything seems to go wrong. We get a speeding ticket, the dishwasher stops working and your zippers splits when you’re already late for a dinner engagement. Sometimes what goes wrong is bigger and more difficult. Maybe your...
|Three Thorny Obstacles to Being Authentic
||In our struggle to be somebody or avoid rejection, we lose connection the beauty of who we really are. Shame and fear prompt us to remain hidden. Affirming ourselves as we are creates an empowering foundation for intimacy. This article explores common obstacles to being authentic, which opens a doorway to connecting more richly with ourselves and others.
|Brain training can help develop building blocks needed for math and reading
||By Bryan Roche, National University of Ireland Maynooth A recent article in The Conversation by Emma Blakey addressed a widespread concern about exaggerated claims made by developers of brain training products. Blakey correctly pointed out that the evidence for the effects of brain training on children’s performance at school is weak. But there is a [...]The post Brain training can help develop building blocks needed for math and reading appeared first on PsyPost.
|The human race evolved to be fair for selfish reasons
||By Rachel L Kendal, Durham University “Make sure you play fairly,” often say parents to their kids. In fact, children do not need encouragement to be fair, it is a unique feature of human social life, which emerges in childhood. When given the opportunity to share sweets equally, young children tend to behave selfishly but, [...]The post The human race evolved to be fair for selfish reasons appeared first on PsyPost.
|Spontaneous mutations in key brain gene are a cause of autism
||Spontaneous mutations in the brain gene TBR1 disrupt the function of the encoded protein in children with severe autism. In addition, there is a direct link between TBR1 and FOXP2, a well-known language-related protein. These are the main findings of Pelagia Deriziotis and colleagues at the Nijmegen Max Planck Institute for Psycholinguistics in an article [...]The post Spontaneous mutations in key brain gene are a cause of autism appeared first on PsyPost.
|Language evolution: Quicker on the uptake
||Defects in the gene FOXP2 result in a severe speech disorder. As LMU researchers now show, when the functional version of the human gene is introduced into mice, it facilitates learning, and alters neuronal circuits in the brain which may have played a role in the evolution of language. The ability to acquire and creatively [...]The post Language evolution: Quicker on the uptake appeared first on PsyPost.
|Suggestions for Parents with Children in Therapy
||I greet you in the waiting room, and ask if you need to let me know anything before I bring your child back to my office. You usually say “no,” and likely wonder what is going on behind that therapy wall for the next 50 minutes. Yes, parent of my...
|Can Handwriting Foster Emotions and Relationships?
||I have a treasure chest, well ok — a suitcase — in my office of old handwritten letters from friends, ex-sweethearts and family. Every now and then, I open this old-fashioned suitcase and pick out a letter or two reminding me of a great love, a wonderful experience, a heart...
|Chimp Violence: Does It Matter For Human Self-Understanding?
||A recent paper argues that Chimpanzee violence is genetic (though the study only shows that human interference is not the cause). Even if violence were genetic in chimps, would it matter for humanity’s self-understanding?
|What Is Your Charisma Quotient?
||Many people believe that charisma is some special gift bestowed on a very few lucky people. However, after more than a third of a century researching charisma, we better understand what makes a person charismatic, and it is something that can be measured, learned, and developed. Here are the basic elements of what we call “personal charisma”
||This weekend I took out my journal and wrote a kind of letter to myself. I started with these words: I forgive myself… I wrote down the things I am ready to forgive myself for (and a few things I am not). Maybe you, too, want to focus on forgiveness,...
|The Workplace Behaviour That is Unexpectedly Worse Than Bullying
This workplace behaviour does more damage to people's mental and physical well-being than bullying.
Dr Jeremy Dean is a psychologist and author of PsyBlog. His latest book is
"Making Habits, Breaking Habits: How to Make Changes That Stick"
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|Are Teens Texting Away their Lives?
||A study by the Pew Research Center and the University of Michigan found that nearly one out of three kids between 12 and 17 years old sent 100 or more texts a day. Seventy-five percent of the teens in the study owned cell phones and that figure is rising fast....
|How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others—and Feel Happier!
||One of the easiest ways to feel bad about oneself is to compare yourself unfavorably to others. We may be tempted to compare ourselves with those who have more accomplishments, seem more attractive, make more money, or boast more Facebook friends. Here's how you can stop comparing yourself—and feel happier!
|How Long Should Psychotherapy Last
||“How long will it last?” is one of the questions people most often ask when they are about to begin psychotherapy–especially if it’s their first time. The answer I usually give isn’t the one people want to hear, because I answer with a question: “How long should yoga last?” “How...
|4 Things to Remember When the Going Gets Tough
||When the going gets tough, smart people make a choice. The choice often involves two options: 1. Persist (the tough get going) 2. Quit (which is often a smart thing to do) It’s difficult to know which is the smarter choice, so I’ve written an entire life skills post about...