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|Does Your "Real" Age Match Your Age on Paper?
In her 1928 novel, The Hotel, Elizabeth Bowen presents the following declaration: "Isn't it funny that for everybody there seems to be just one age at which they are really themselves? I mean, there are women you meet who were obviously born to be twenty (and pretty at that) and who seem to have lost their way since, and men you do wish you'd known when they were, say thirty, or twenty four, or feel sorry you mayn't come across them when they're forty or fifty-five, and children . . . who are simply shaping up to be pale, sarcastic women of twenty-nine, who won't, once they're that, ever grow older.”
Certain wines have a particular moment when they should be poured into goblets, certain fruits have a ripeness that almost begs for the sweet first bite, certain paintings are seen best in an instant of light that passes almost as quickly as it appears. Maybe it’s the same with us: maybe there are moments when we are most ourselves and this is what we glimpse when we imagine ourselves as a certain age.
This idea is about the true age of a person, the age one has always been meant to be, the age one works up to and then backs down from. It seems to be a topic some folks have spent time thinking about--certainly more than time that I expected.
I figured that my husband Michael would laugh or be baffled by the question about how old he pictures himself, but when I asked, he didn’t miss a beat, didn’t even raise his eyes from the paper. “I’m about 15,” he answered. What could I do but agree?
My brother turned 63 last year and was perplexed. “I’m not supposed to be 63,” he announced, explaining with exaggerated emphasis that “Dad is supposed to be 63.” Unprepared for this mandate, I asked, “How old are you supposed to be?” since it seemed--in the context of this highly illogical discussion--a logical question. “I’m supposed to be around 22.” He sounded pretty confident about it. Curious, I asked “And me?” “You’re about 12,” he answered with alacrity, as if I had always been twelve and always would be.
Inevitably, I presume former undergraduate students remain between the ages of 18 and 22, even when they’re running their own marketing companies, living in the suburbs, and having baby after baby. They’ll mail me photographs of the latest kid and I’ll have to shake my brain around to realize that what they’re holding in their arms is their own offspring, not their younger sibling.
What is indisputable is this: no member of any population ages faster than other people’s children. I’ll be talking on the phone with my friend their toddlers will be gurgling happily into the receiver. The next time I call these same children will have just taken the MCATs.
And it’s not like I’m out of touch, it’s just that a person simply can’t keep up. I have no idea what kinds of birthday cards to send: I’ll send one with a clown button saying “IT’S MY SPECIAL DAY” to a friend’s child only to discover that the child in question will have recently purchased his own marina.
I pretty much think of myself as being 46. Okay, 45; I shave a year off, not for the sake of vanity but because saying “46” sounds as awkward as when little kids tell you they’re five-and-a-half, with the last bit tacked on for show.
But maybe that’s because in reality I’ve been 45 or thereabouts my entire life; maybe that’s why this age is as comfortable for me as a tailor-made dressing gown. I slipped my arms into my forties and, with a little jiggle here and there for the finer points of adjustment, those years fit just fine.
A couple of weeks ago I turned 58. It sounds older than it feels, but I'm always good with birthdays because they're like getting a badge for attendance--for having shown up in the world for 365 days in a row.
What is your essential age? Does it really matter?
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Certain wines have a particular moment when they should be poured into goblets, certain fruits have a ripeness that almost begs for the sweet first bite, certain paintings are seen best in an instant of light that passes almost as quickly as it appears. Maybe it’s the same with us.
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